The holidays make people want to be together; family and friends alone. It’s the time of year that people everywhere are making plans to see the people they love and miss, but that’s not the case for everyone. The end of the year is a tough time for a lot of people. While those who are blessed enough to be around family have the opportunity to do so, some people don’t for many reasons; be that loss or distance.
I am grateful that I have the opportunity to live with my family so it lessens the blow but when it comes to Boo, I have to share my time with him because he’s a few states away. Yes, I know, people all over have it much worst than a few states, but that doesn’t make it any “better”. Distance is distance. Having been in a long-distance relationship (LDR) for a little while, here are a few tips I can offer you.
Technology is your friend! Video chatting is the #1 on my list when it comes to being in a long distance relationship, whether it’s the holidays or not. Talking on the phone is cool, but seeing the face of your loved one is extra special. It’s a little bittersweet because you aren’t able to pinch their cheeks or physically touch them, but it’s a lot more personal than just hearing their voice.
Communication Once the relationship starts getting real, I think it’s very important to communicate before hand how you two want to celebrate the holidays. Boo and I are very family oriented people so the holidays are special to us. We were lucky enough that our families emphasize Thanksgiving and Christmas differently, so while his family is very, very big in having a Christmas celebration, my family is really big on Thanksgiving. This makes it easy to know who is spending what holiday where, by default. Now, that doesn’t mean that I won’t ever spend Christmas with his family, because I have, it just means, by default, we have an understanding of who will be where. My birthday is the second day of the year so I also know that I’ll be able to see him for the New Year.
Planning Yes LDRs suck, but with proper planning they can suck less. Planning visits throughout the year is very helpful when you know you won’t be together for the holiday. For instance, seeing Boo is the first week or so of November will make it a little better if he isn’t able to be around for Thanksgiving. It makes it feel like I “just” saw him so I won’t miss him as much. But if the last time we see each other before Thanksgiving is early October, it will be especially sad to not see him on Thanksgiving because i’m already missing him. I play these mind tricks on myself and they mostly work.
All-in-all, distance makes the heart grow fonder, right? So no matter how long or how far until you see your significant other, it will always be nice to reconnect.
How many of you are in long-distance relationship? What are some of your tips?