I must confess, I’m still that person that hates to do things alone. I can’t seem to shake it. I did for a little while but I ended up slipping slowly and pretty quickly into my old ways. It was fun while it lasted, but how can I keep it up? It can be challenging to do things (social things, especially) alone. At least I think so. Here are a few ways I think you can get over the fear factor of doing things alone.
Start out doing small things by yourself.
Some people find it very difficult to do things like go to the movies or restaurants alone but I think these are great places to get started. For instance, the movie theatre is pretty low-key when you think about it. The lights are dim and depending on the time and movie, there probably won’t be a lot of people there. Take a seat wherever you like and enjoy your time alone. Once the movie starts playing, I’m sure you’ll forget you were even alone. The same can go for restaurants. Find a local spot that is small enough to feel cozy and warm, bring something to read, and enjoy your meal. Dinner for one is cheaper than dinner for two. The more comfortable you get, the more you can step up your game. Start shopping alone, attend small gatherings, and concerts all by yourself. You’ll be glad you did.
Challenge yourself to find someone to connect with.
Sure you went alone, but that doesn’t mean you have to be alone the entire time. When you get where you’re going, take a look around and scope out someone else who may be alone or a group small enough (or even big enough) to insert yourself into. You’ll inevitably share a few words with someone beside you and boom you’ve made a friend for the night. Don’t forget to smile, it invites people to approach you. I’ll admit, I have to work on that.
Use social media to your advantage.
Don’t do what I’d do and sit in a corner scrolling through the same pictures on Instagram, ignoring the world around you, trying not to make eye contact with anyone, while counting the minutes that you’ve been there. *Clears throat* Obviously, I have experience in this. Haha. People are using social media all the time, especially at events. Use what you know about an event alongside your Facebook timeline and Instagram feed to build connections before you even arrive. Look for familiar faces and don’t be afraid to approach them with a friendly, “hey, I’ve seen you on Instagram, I love your feed. I’m [your name here].” Sure this might be scary a little but you’ve already overcome the fear of attending an event alone, why stop now?
Practice makes perfect. You get good at it miraculously, you have to get better at it gradually. Remember, you don’t have to attend every event with the intention of meeting new people, if that’s what you’re afraid of. Go alone, leave when you want to and you’ll learn what you like and don’t like in the process. You’ll feel so empowered at the end of this experience, if I can promise you anything, it’s that.
How often have you just did things alone and what was your experience like? Share your comments down below!